As we as people and we as a society learn more about neurotypes and neurodivergence, many of us are discovering that some of our personality traits are actually neurodivergent experiences.
This encompasses a range of experiences, from sensory input, to navigating interests, social engagement and communication.
Sometimes communication types can differ and this is where things can become challenging in relationships. Different communication styles can have a considerable impact on relationships, especially when we’re unaware of the way we communicate and how that can differ from others.
As an example, autistic communication can be quite linear and factual, which may be perceived as insensitive by those who aren’t aware that these are based in values of directness and accuracy.
ADHD’ers may communicate and express empathy through relation – the sharing of a story which they felt is relatable to yours. This isn’t intended to minimise or compete, but express a feeling of being able to relate.
Neurotypical styles often rely strongly on subtext and implicit cues, preferring to use a conversation to build social cohesion. There is also an emphasis on tone, gesture and body language to express intent.
There isn’t anything wrong with the communication styles across neurotypes – however challenges may arise if people aren’t aware of the way those around them communicate.
If you’re having communication issues with someone whose neurotype may be different to yours it can be worth checking in and trying to learn more about them and how they speak and hear.
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